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November 30, 2005
I Don't Know How to Say This ...
... without coming across as judgmental or self-righteous, but I am really, really glad I don't own a TV. I was at the in-laws for the weekend and watched a lot of TV for the first time in a long time. Got to see Dallas lose which always helps the digestion on Turkey Day. Watched a neat series on crab fishing in the Bering Sea on the Discover channel. Saw a couple CSIs and a MythBusters (the Confederates apparently did not bombard Washington DC with two-stage rockets).
I also saw a lot of commercials. A LOT of them. And it's funny, not having seen commercials for so long, how stupid they are. Most of them were variations on this theme: "Spend your money to buy this amusing gadget." I didn’t even know what half these gadgets are, I had never heard of them—and therefore, didn’t want them. I still don’t want them even after seeing the ads. They seem pretty pointless, or maybe the ads are aimed at values I just don’t share. I don’t miss what these gadgets provide very much, and certainly not enough to pay “must-have” inflated prices for them.
I used to think that the shows on TV were the most detrimental thing, all the coarseness and violence, but now I think the ads are more damaging. Rachel has no clue who Dora the Explorer is, and therefore doesn’t want everything she sees that has Dora on it. Contrast that with the other kids we saw in Toys R Us the day after Thanksgiving—where did they learn that they needed or wanted these things? They learned it from TV, that’s where. TV is a huge materialism trainer. I’d like to have the chance to teach Rachel that people are more important than things, and I won’t get the chance if Cartoon Network is my babysitter.
Here’s another way TV undermines valuing people. Alethea goes to a community ladies' Bible Study and to MOPS here in town, and so Rachel gets to play with the kids in the nursery. I feel bad for the babysitters, because when they put in a video everyone crowds around the TV except her, and one of them has to play with her. She just totally ignores the TV. I’m kind of proud of her, I don’t know if that’s right but I do feel that way. I'm also amazed how young the other kids have gotten used to focusing on the TV. This is convenient for care-givers but it isn’t really interpersonal interaction. When we go to visit the in-laws it seems like the way they spend time together is to watch TV or movies together. I suppose that's a shared experience, but there isn’t much interaction between people, no sharing of feelings, opinions, values, and ideas. As for Rachel, I really enjoy her curiosity, even if it means we get less done around the house.
I'm not anti-technology, and I'm not saying that everyone who has a TV is a sinner or fool or something stupid like that. I'm just trying to put into words how satisfied I am with the decision Alethea and I have made to not have a TV in our house. It’s about the personal interaction and the materialism. I think we have a much better chance raising Rachel with the values we hope to instill in here without TV contradicting our instruction. It good for us too not to have something dragging us down in these areas too.
Posted by at November 30, 2005 01:13 PM
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No tv...?
But...
But...
Where else can you get your daily dose of commercial-driven avarice?
Posted by: Slublog at November 30, 2005 06:20 PM
What's really amusing?
Contexting this post with the one right before it.
Posted by: Hal at November 30, 2005 06:46 PM
Heh. That is pretty funny.
Posted by: Slublog at November 30, 2005 07:51 PM
Got to see Dallas lose which always helps the digestion on Turkey Day
Hey...wait a minute...I just noticed this line...
Darn that Billy Cundiff.
Posted by: Slublog at November 30, 2005 09:48 PM
Got to see Dallas lose which always helps the digestion on Turkey Day
Put that in there for you my friend!
Posted by: MainiacJoe at December 1, 2005 08:34 AM
What you need, my friend, is TiVo!
Blast right by those nasty adverts and only show what you want to your kids.
[Vader]Come to the dark side, Luke[/Vader]
Posted by: Sinner at December 1, 2005 08:36 AM
Eh, a TiVo would only be worth it if the actual shows were worth it. When I'm visiting somewhere I'll watch, there's usually something interesting on somewhere, but I've got better things to do with the money I'd spend on cable at home. Plus I am afraid I'd waste too much time watching crap on TV when I could be accomplising something more worthwhile. Having been without TV for so long I really don't miss it. I've even gotten to where I prefer to hear football on the radio than see it on TV--that was one thing I thought I'd miss the most. TV announcers are filler, but radio announcers really have to know how to describe a game. I caught the end of the Giant-Seahawks game last Sunday night, got in the car just as the Giant missed their first field goal. It was a lot more exciting to hear the announcer wait with the crowd for the call than to see the ball go wide or true pretty much as soon as it's kicked with the end-zone camera. I think it was a lot more fun to listen to it than it would have been to see it.
Posted by: MainiacJoe at December 1, 2005 09:38 AM
Interesting post, Joe. I know another young family who manage without a TV. I wonder how common this is, and if it's becoming more so.
It surprised me that Rachel ignores the TV when it's available. I'd have thought it would be a fascinating novelty -- but I guess it's just not that interesting to someone who's used to being active in her mind. You're lucky the babysitters are willing to play with her -- but, again, she's probably a lot more enjoyable to play with than kids whose minds are steeped in passivity.
By being deprived of the TV, Rachel escapes that numbing of the mind. She's interacting while the tots in front of the tube are merely absorbing. And not only will you have a much easier time teaching her virtue and discernment, she'll have a much easier time, later on, evaluating temptations and distractions.
I wish all you parents of young children would think about this. I breaks my heart to see parents of teenagers frantic with despair, knowing their sons and daughters lack the foundation of wisdom and the skills of discernment which would help them avoid tragic choices -- and knowing the chance to build such a foundation and to practice such skills has passed them by.
Posted by: Gerald Childers at December 3, 2005 11:04 AM
Just thought I'd clear a few things up..see I'm an in-law of ManiacJoe. First off, we don't just watch TV during holidays, or anyother time for that matter. We love to play board games, cards (especially hand and foot), and retell family stories. My late father did enjoy football, but mostly the TV is watched by ManiacJoe while we interact. In the past we made the assuption this was because we have little in common, and after reading the above post I have to agree. What is negative isn't having a TV, it's the priority a family gives it. Having two children of my own I feel it's important to acclimate them to the culture they live in, and at the same time teach them discipline, the difference between right and wrong, and the strength to choose. There is a difference between teaching them to make good choices, and just removing the tempation. My children have always had a TV present in our home, and yet we spend the majority of our time reading and playing with them. They are creative, interactive, and imaginative little people. Ironically they are more so, along with possessing the ability to stay focused on a task, than their non-TV cousin counterparts. This leads me to believe that parenting styles and priorities are more important than the absence of television.
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